is he being gentlemanly or am i being feminist?
4 Comments Published Wednesday, 30 March 2005, 6:49 pm
today's an untypically unproductive day. it's 4.42pm as i type this and i'm still roaming the blogosphere. not like i have nought to do, in fact, my work was due yesterday, i just got no motivation baby.
sigh. this is not the way to be, kids.
once, way back, when i could afford to leave the office before the witching hour, i bumped into cheryl and wilfred waiting for cheryl's dad to pick her up.
hold on, i'm not trying to putport anything by that, don't get ahead of yourself, my story isn't half over. cheryl and wilfred are coursemates who happened to be posted to the same company for their internship, so that makes them colleagues or friends now. funny how we've become familiar with people we never would have thought to strike a conversation with when we were in school.
cheryl called out to me, just to say hi. like i mentioned above - funny how internship makes you become more affable. i'm not one to ignore a little hi from people i know, unless of course, it came from soohiong (it's not because he's fat).
so conversation between me and cheryl revealed that she was, like divulged above, waiting for her dad, and wilfred was just waiting with her while she waited for her dad.
"wah! so nice ah!" i thought.
but can't cheryl wait for her dad on her own?
assuming cheryl had not asked wilfred to wait with her, and that wilfred had, on his own accord, offered to accompany cheryl, well then what made wilfred act that way?
does wilfred think cheryl is unable to wait for her dad alone?
is wilfred being chauvinist?
i'm not a feminist, in fact, i still subscribe to some traditionally sexist notions like having my door held open and not going dutch on a first date, that kinda thang, y'know?
somehow wilfred's gesture, however kind it was, prompted this slight discord. ok, so i have a problem when guys offer to send me home, or buy me meals or accompany me while my bus comes, et cetera, i knew a guy once who did all that and it made me felt like time had reversed and i'd become this helpless child. sure, it's nice to have company on the train, and i save money if he pays for dinner and all, but sometimes i just want to be alone and i think when there's money, some of it is meant to be spent...?
my logic is warped. ok. tell me something new.
sigh. this is not the way to be, kids.
once, way back, when i could afford to leave the office before the witching hour, i bumped into cheryl and wilfred waiting for cheryl's dad to pick her up.
hold on, i'm not trying to putport anything by that, don't get ahead of yourself, my story isn't half over. cheryl and wilfred are coursemates who happened to be posted to the same company for their internship, so that makes them colleagues or friends now. funny how we've become familiar with people we never would have thought to strike a conversation with when we were in school.
cheryl called out to me, just to say hi. like i mentioned above - funny how internship makes you become more affable. i'm not one to ignore a little hi from people i know, unless of course, it came from soohiong (it's not because he's fat).
so conversation between me and cheryl revealed that she was, like divulged above, waiting for her dad, and wilfred was just waiting with her while she waited for her dad.
"wah! so nice ah!" i thought.
but can't cheryl wait for her dad on her own?
assuming cheryl had not asked wilfred to wait with her, and that wilfred had, on his own accord, offered to accompany cheryl, well then what made wilfred act that way?
does wilfred think cheryl is unable to wait for her dad alone?
is wilfred being chauvinist?
i'm not a feminist, in fact, i still subscribe to some traditionally sexist notions like having my door held open and not going dutch on a first date, that kinda thang, y'know?
somehow wilfred's gesture, however kind it was, prompted this slight discord. ok, so i have a problem when guys offer to send me home, or buy me meals or accompany me while my bus comes, et cetera, i knew a guy once who did all that and it made me felt like time had reversed and i'd become this helpless child. sure, it's nice to have company on the train, and i save money if he pays for dinner and all, but sometimes i just want to be alone and i think when there's money, some of it is meant to be spent...?
my logic is warped. ok. tell me something new.
and girls should open doors for guys.
i have been opening doors for guys, simply because they like to sneak in behind me when i'm opening doors.
men are so lazy.
im opposite...
oh i dun mean lazy. haha
That a guy offers to wait with a girl just means he enjoys her company and so would rather wait with her than go off first. Which isn't to say he wants to get in her pants; guys do the same for their male friends as well, though less frequently (in my experience) as they grow older and start to view certain actions as 'gay'. [rolls eyes]